No victim can get real justice when only some victims are deemedlegitimate. Every victim counts, and every abuser must be heldaccountable. Blaming only one gender for domestic violence in oursociety needlessly polarizes men and women, when we should be workingtogether for better solutions.
Obviously, a restraining order is not effective unless it isobeyed. Unfortunately, police enforcement of restraining orders isnot always as good as it should be. You should also keep in mind thefact that most restraining orders are only temporary and that inorder to get one, you will have to tell your story to both the policeand the court. Also note that according to the U.S. Department ofJustice (1) Out of 8,000 men surveyed, 9.7% of male domesticviolence victims took out restraining orders, and (2) Out of 8,000women surveyed, 68% violated restraining orders.
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An obvious example of this concerns abuse in low vs. high incomefamilies. While on the surface, it may appear that low levels ofincome go hand-in-hand with higher levels of domestic violence, onemust keep in mind that available income has significant weight on theoptions available to victims. While a low-income mother with threesmall infants might appear on statistical reports when getting arestraining order, when entering a domestic violence shelter, or whenapplying for TANF services due to family violence, the white collarmother with two in college might flee to a hotel for a few weeks,file for divorce, and move back to the city where the bulk of herfamily resides. In these scenarios, the low-income victim shows upall over the place in various statistical reports (from the court,from the shelter, and from the social services agency) while thewhite collar victim only shows up on a hotel register, on a civilcourt docket for divorce, and in the records of the local movingbusiness. In other words, violence against her and/or her children,while every bit as dangerous and abusive, simply doesn't exist - onanyone's offical paper.
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Domestic Violence can be described as when one adult in a relationship misuses power to control another. It is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and other forms of abuse. The violence may involve physical abuse, sexual assault and threats. Sometimes it’s more subtle, like making someone feel worthless, not letting them have any money, or not allowing them to leave the home. Social isolation and emotional abuse can have long-lasting effects as well as physical violence.
Domestic Violence isn’t just hitting, or fighting, or an occasional argument. It’s an abuse of power. The abuser tortures and controls the victim by calculated threats, intimidation, and physical violence. . Although both men and women can be abused, in most cases, the victims are women. Children in homes where there is domestic violence are also abused or neglected. Although the woman is usually the primary target, violence is sometimes directed toward children, and sometimes toward family members and friends.
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About Domestic Violence
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of abusive behavior inany relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintainpower and control over another intimate partner.
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Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, orpsychological actions or threats of actions that influence anotherperson. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate,humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame,hurt, injure, or wound someone.
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Sexual Abuse: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contactor behavior without consent. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainlynot limited to marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body,forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one ina sexually demeaning manner.