I think the article covers a great many things that aren’t being said. But the photo threw me off. The author starts off with an anecdote describing her friend’s child as “all curly brown hair, doe-like dark eyes.” Yet the photo is clearly of a child with blue eyes and straight hair. I know photo it is not of that particular child, and is just a photo of a little girl to represent all the little girls that the article is speaking about (and indirectly to). It would be nice to have seen a girl with curly hair and dark eyes as oppose to one with typical features.
I don’t think the problem lies with a well meaning compliment from another female. I think it goes a whole lot deeper than that. We need to look at the messages the media are constantly bombarding our children with. Promoted by the silicone industry. Also another bone of contention is….and I’m just going to say it, “Barbie.” She is the unrealistic model of a naked woman that little girls think they are suppose to grow up to look like. Lets put the blame where it belongs.
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This piece is ALL about paying girls compliments. Just choosing the compliments that can help inspire them to realize their full potential.
There is nothing wrong with being beautiful (as a 20 something I constantly wish I was more beautiful). And yes it’s great when someone tells me I am. But the compliments that mean so much more to me are ones about my accomplishments and my successes. It is so much more valuable to be praised for something I worked for rather than for looking a certain way because I chose a good color for my skin tone or was born with good jeans.
Plenty of people will tell a little girl she is beautiful. Not enough people will tell her she is smart, and talented, and independent.
This news from Birmingham, Alabama
Thank you for this good article! My English is not so good, but good enough to understand the theme. This i think too: How sick is it, if just little girls are classified about how they are looking, not what the like or can or read and so on…
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Four broken columns in Birmingham's downtown Kelly Ingram Park and the nook in thebasement of Sixteenth Street Baptist Church are both memorials to the four girls killed inthe 1963 church bombing.
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Not telling little girls that they are pretty is not going to stop them from wanting to be pretty, or wanting to be appreciated for being pretty. Teaching girls that the first thing you notice is their appearance is honest, because the first thing you notice *is* appearance! The problems you listed do not stem from telling girls (or women) that they are pretty. They stem from society being psychotically out of whack, lacking perspective, values and an established social script that tells everyone what they can expect in a stable society. Not telling a girl that she is pretty is not going to make her feel any more comfortable about her appearance; it could even *make* her concerned, if no one ever says anything about it. That’s because little girls want to be pretty!
History of Investigations into the 1963 Birmingham Church Bombing
"We're mindful that this verdict will not bring back the lives of the four littlegirls," added Kweisi Mfume, head of the National Association for the Advancement ofColored People, in a statement. "(But) justice has finally been served."